Fetish - what is it, types of fetishes. What is a fetishist?

Probably, each of us has some preferences that make the rapprochement even more enjoyable. Many people call these preferences fetishes. In fact, a fetish is not a sexual stimulus, but a condition of sexual satisfaction. A fetishist is a person with unusual sexual preferences. A person with such inclinations may, for example, be fascinated by women's legs, but this is not the rule. The fetishist will have other hobbies and elements of worship that will further stimulate him sexually. The problem arises when this fetish causes orgasm or does not give pleasure to the partner. In certain circumstances, one person's fetish can cause harm to another, and such behavior should be treated.

1. What is a fetish?

The word "fetish" comes from the French word fétiche and also from the Portuguese word feitiço meaning an amulet or a spell. Many experts suggest that the word fetish is related to the word facere, which means to create something.

Scientists define a fetish as an object, some element of a situation or environment that is necessary to achieve complete sexual satisfaction in a fetishist. A fetish is not a sexual stimulus, but its absence can cause not quite intense sexual sensations, sometimes no excitement or even impotence.

You can talk about a fetish as a disorder when the absence of a certain stimulus does not allow you to enjoy sex and intimacy, i.e. overshadows all the joy of sexual intercourse and becomes an obsession, for example, when a man experiences arousal only when his partner is dressed. stockings.

In many cases, a man can be turned on by the mere fact that a woman is wearing stockings. This excitement is caused by the element of clothing, and not the appearance of the woman.

Another problem arises when a fetish greatly excites one person and disgusts another.

2. What is fetishism?

Fetishism is a paraphilia, a sexual disorder. It may be a pathological formation. Fetishism is included in a group of sexual disorders such as exhibitionism, pedophilia and sadomasochism.

When can fetishism be diagnosed? According to the American Psychiatric Association, if sexual infatuation with a particular object, such as feet, lasts longer than 6 months, we can talk about fetishism. It is found when it causes significant discomfort or interferes with the fulfillment of social, professional or family roles, and arousal and satisfaction can occur mainly during fetishistic experiences.

A fetish can be a body part, an article of clothing (such as underwear), as well as erotic gadgets such as handcuffs or a vibrator. The fetishist needs additional stimuli in order for his sexual arousal and sexual intercourse to be satisfactory. For sex to be successful, the fetishist absolutely needs his or her object of desire. The mere presence of a partner is not enough.

According to studies, the most common fetishists are men, but this does not mean that there are no women among fetishists.

In many cases, fetishism can become a very serious problem not only for the fetishist himself, but also for his loved ones. It happens that the fetishist is no longer interested in everything that does not relate to his sympathies. In such a situation, you should seek treatment as soon as possible.

Sometimes fetishism occurs along with a severe personality disorder or mental illness, and then loss of sexual satisfaction it is simply one of the symptoms of serious psychological problems that require appropriate treatment.

3. Types of fetishes

There are very different types of fetishes. The most famous sexual hobbies:

• feederism - fetishism associated with the obesity of another person,
• podofilia - foot fetish,
• autogynephilia - a fetishist is aroused at the moment when he imagines himself a woman.
• stigmatophilia - a fetishist is sexually attracted to people with tattoos,
• alvinophilia - navel fetishism
• acrotomophilia, dysmorphophilia - the mutilated or deformed body of a partner is a fetish,
• phallophilia - a fetish associated with the large size of the penis,
• asphyxiophilia - fetishism associated with strangulation of oneself or a partner during intercourse,
• terrorism - fetishism is based on friction against the body of a stranger (for example, in crowded buses, trains or subways),
• nasolingus - a fetishist achieves sexual satisfaction only when he can suck the nose of a sexual partner,
• knismolagnia - ticklishness is a fetish
• stenolagnia - a fetish associated with a feeling of sexual satisfaction when working with sculptural muscles,
• telephone scatology - a fetish in this case is a sexual telephone conversation,
• pubephilia - pubic hair is the object of a fetishist's desire,
• catoptronophilia - a fetishism associated with the achievement of sexual satisfaction at the sight of a mirror image,
• urophilia - urine is the object of sexual desire,
• coprophilia - the object of sexual desire is feces,
• endophilia - the achievement of sexual satisfaction is possible for a fetishist only during sexual intercourse with dressed partners,
• graviditophilia - the object of sexual desire is the belly of a pregnant woman,
• enemaphilia - sexual satisfaction is achieved with the help of a rectal enema,
• necrophilia - sexual intercourse with a deceased person,
• agorafila - public places are a sexual stimulus.

4. What to do when your fetish becomes an obsession?

It may seem that sexual attraction is not something dangerous, because each of us needs a change in the bedroom. As long as everything is done in moderation, there is nothing to worry about. However, when the sexual urges are very intense and occur with every intercourse, the other party may simply not accept them.

There are times when a fetish can take the form of an obsession. Permanent and unusual habits, often significantly preventing normal sexual intercourse, are, for example, making love in only one position, for example, "from behind", or only after drinking a lot of alcohol.

Types of fetishism can also be dangerous. Especially if we are dealing with such types of fetishism as sadomasochism, strangulation, mutilation of a sexual partner or feederism. The treatment of fetishism is usually lengthy and requires a lot of work on the part of both the patient and his partner.

Let us remember that successful satisfying sex this is, on the one hand, some of our preferences, but also the use of a wealth of erotic diversity.

People who are very accustomed, even attached to rituals, cannot fully enjoy the enormous opportunities provided by sex. So, if a person is able to at least try new things from time to time, then he is not so bad yet.

In a situation where for you fetish partner or his obsessive attachment to certain rituals is a serious problem, don't try to "heal him with your love" in the first place. Talk about it honestly first, without medication, anger or resentment, and then seek professional help. In such a situation, psychotherapy is most effective. In a situation where fetishism begins to destroy your relationship with your loved one, be sure to contact a specialist, a sexologist. This will help unravel the problems that fetishism entails. Psychologists and psychiatrists also deal with the problem of fetishism.

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