Lonely in a thousand ways

When she finally decided to visit me, she had been married for three years. Are you happy?

“Everything went well when we didn’t get along, when we didn’t have enough money. I remember when we both came tired and immediately ate on the couch. Shared since we only had one room. We whispered in the evenings. When my husband became a director, we bought a plot near Warsaw. Then I noticed that he isolated himself. After work, he closes the door behind him and spends hours reading or staring at his computer.

- Have you spoken to him?

He replied that nothing was happening. This situation has been going on for almost a year. Maciek is not involved in anything. It only helps me when explicitly requested. No, it is not on erotic sites. He writes something or watches sports. I have no idea how to get to it. Besides, I'm just embarrassed...

- What?

- No partner! I go to family gatherings alone. Sisters, cousins ​​with husbands, and I, like an orphan…” she sobbed.

I guess the guy just has a lover he sees at work and that's why he distances himself emotionally from his wife, I thought. My theory seemed to be confirmed by the words of my client about the sexual restraint of her husband. So it's definitely a woman, I confirmed my suspicion.

The difficult relationship between the Hermit and the Empress

However, the tarot ruled out extramarital affairs. According to the cards, the man was a model of fidelity, except that he was represented by the Arcana of Eremit. And everyone whom the Hermit represents is a born loner. Feels bad in the crowd, avoids noisy parties and meetings. In case of conflict, he silently leaves.

Amelia was his opposite: as an empress, she loved people, parties and could not imagine life without fun. She ran an open house. Maciej, on the contrary, withdrew into himself because he was too expansive, and at the same time ignored his need to exist only in the intimate dimension.

Are you interested in what he reads?

He is fascinated by the history of the Second World War. I'm bored.

- You love him?

Yes, but I feel rejected. I said that there was a time when things were different between us.

“In the infatuation phase, my husband succumbed to your expectations. Now his true nature came to the fore. In addition, he is also very sorry for you. I think you should accept it the way it is.

I want him to change!

Unfortunately, this is not feasible. Neither he nor she will change. However, with good intentions on both sides - and I assumed that the Empress and the Hermit would finally get along somehow - a compromise could be made. First of all, Amelia must not explain her husband's absence to anyone. Go to parties with a friend, go to the movies with friends, and invite Maciej to dinner, for example, in a cozy restaurant. From time to time I seduce my husband with a candlelit dinner. Take it out for a long walk. To function the way they like. As long as you don't act against yourself and don't sacrifice yourself unnecessarily.

Death is no excuse

Barbara also complained about being lonely in a relationship, whose husband disappeared with no one for days. Anya abandoned by her mother. Henrik, married to Isa, who did not intend to have children. At first he persuaded her to motherhood, they argued with each other for a long time, then imperceptibly subsided. Today they only have a loan for an apartment.

Renata came to me about a month ago. She said she was very sad because her fiancé stopped coming. Before that, he came almost every night. I unfolded the cards and felt a little uncomfortable. For in the system I have found Transformation, Tower Inverted, Moon and Chariot Inverted. A set that undeniably announces the death of a loved one. I timidly asked Renata about this. And she:

— Yes, he did. But that doesn't mean he's allowed to leave me.

Maria Bigoshevskaya